All of us must have witnessed relationships change, over time. Why does it happen? Do you have a pertinent answer on mind?
I feel there are certain stages in every relationship, we share. Some predictable and many unpredictable. Each stage has its own set of rules! It’s all about how we manage and survive the expectations.
I have seen people constantly telling themselves that their relationship has it ‘right’…and this particular feeling keeps them going, keeping off from the real being, denying the differences… till the time they meddle with various hard-fought stages.
It’s important to understand that it’s “Us” who change but not the connection. Our priorities change, so does our bias. We take a ride on the emotional cycle. And the cycle guides us to become a completely new person. We, too take part in the modification and choose who, what and how we will be! And then, we often call it a troubled relationship.
The biggest problem arises when the focus changes from “We” to “Me”. We tend to search for our own identity and get more implicated about who we are and what we want. And the relationship suffers a major drift.
But there are people, overcoming the hard times and preserving the closeness. The simple mantra is to come to terms with the differences and respect the other person’s individuality. And there you are, on to a beautiful bond.
Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand. ~Emily Kimbrough